I regret dating a non-Jew, but I don’t know how to let her down gently.

I’m writing this from my throwaway account, because anybody who knows me in person would recognize my from my regular account’s Reddit history. I hope I’m not the only person that’s been in a similar situation and I’d really like advice.

I’m in university and I met a very nice girl. We connected very quickly and well, now we’ve been dating for a few months. Unfortunately she isn’t Jewish and she is already talking about marriage. She talks about how she wants me to ‘wait for her’ to finish med school (we’re still undergrads..) and how she already loves me. It’s starting to bother me. The real problem here is that she seems like she’s made her mind up about marrying me, but I really don’t want to marry her – she’s already made it clear she won’t leave her religion for me (I was not the person who brought this up) and wants to raise our children in both our religions. It’s very important to me that I raise my children Jewish, and while I absolutely respect her religion, my idea of raising my children Jewish doesn’t include having them worship multiple deities (and idols). I respect and admire people who make interfaith marriages work, but I don’t think it’s for me.

I don’t have anything against her as a person but every time we talk, she says something else about marriage, and I wish more and more that I never got into this situation in the first place. I know I need to be honest with her – and soon – but I really don’t want to break her heart, or make her feel that I don’t respect her faith.