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I am a modern-orthodox/traditional Jew and she is a conservative Jew, can we make it work?

My girlfriend and I have been dating for five years now. I am 24, and she is 23. When we started dating, we were both Conservative Jews, attending shul on the high holidays, occasionally on Shabbat, and eating kosher or kosher-style at home. Over the past five years, I have become more observant. While I am not fully frum, I daven every day, go to shul on Shabbat, refrain from working on Yom Tov, and keep my head covered most of the time with a kippah or cap. Although I eat more kosher now, I still eat dairy and fish out, watch TV on Shabbat, and will get in a car if someone else is driving. So, I wouldn’t say I am frum but definitely very traditional.

My girlfriend, on the other hand, hasn’t changed much. She eats kosher at home but will eat non-kosher out and works on Shabbat. My question is: Can we make our differences in observance work? She talks about marriage a lot—like, A LOT. And I do love her and want to marry her as well, but part of me is concerned about our differences in observance and whether they make us incompatible.

We’ve talked about it before, and I said that all I really care about is that she doesn’t work on Shabbat and holidays, because I want to be with my wife when I make kiddush and celebrate the holidays. She has expressed a desire to find a job or modify her current job so she doesn’t have to work on Saturdays. She recently started working at a car dealership and requested not to work on Saturdays, but they told her they need her on Saturdays because it’s their busiest day.

At this point, I think I’m rambling, but my question once again is: Do you think this can work, and if so, how can I make this work?

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