Different religious levels in a relationship

TL:DR at the end.

Wishing anyone who reads this some comfort during the three weeks and generally with the global situation.

I recently (about 3 months ago) started dating someone and wanted to know if anyone has advice from similar situations. Am going to try give general details to try maintain anonymity.

For some background, I’m in my early 30s, I grew up in a transitional (orthodox) middle eastern family (we’d do all the family/cultural stuff, mostly keep a kosher home but eat out non kosher, do Friday nights and chagim night and day but no one kept shabbat). In my teens I started keeping shabbat and stopped eating out (we didn’t have kosher restaurants in my town), and after high school I spent a year and a half in a religious Zionist yeshiva in Israel.

When I moved back home I found it difficult to remain observant. Partially because there wasn’t such a religious framework where I’m from, but also because of my relationships with people in the family. As I said, my family are middle eastern, and honour and shame are big parts of that culture. I had family members that I didn’t feel comfortable to eat at because they weren’t kosher, but also didn’t feel comfortable not eating at because it being extremely offensive in my family’s culture.

After a period of time I stopped keeping things, went the other way, and in the last few years arrived somewhere back where I grew up religiously. I feel comfortable where I am, where I do things which speak to me but don’t get too caught up in it all (my mental health also took a toll when I was religious because I think I’m predisposed to seeing things at black and white, so halacha became my life).

Then 3 months ago there was a woman who seemed interested in me so I asked her out. She’s shomeret shabbat and kashrut among other things. She’s also very respectful of me – she’s encouraged me to break shabbat in different ways when I’m around her to make things more comfortable for me (ie taking a cab, turning on the heating) but wants a shomer shabbat home. She has said that she wouldn’t feel comfortable eating at my family who aren’t fully kosher – which I want to discuss with her further (not to convince her but just to understand her perspective) because of what I said before about my family culture.

I want to speak to her more about how she sees our future together and how she thinks it would work, because I feel like I constantly look at things that I do and wonder how it would work if we make a family together (for example things like shaving with a razor or not praying every day). The majority of my friends keep shabbat and kashrut so having a house which is respectful of those things would be something that I think would happen regardless of my future with her.

I’m wondering if anyone has advice about navigating this aspect of relationships and if there’s anything you’d recommend discussing with each other to work out if we’re suited on a religious level.

TL:DR – recently started seeing someone who’s more observant than me. Looking for advice about navigating this relationship