Ugh I hope I don’t sound nuts in this post. Hopefully some of you can relate. Does anyone else feel overwhelmed by parental Jewish guilt?
My parents are ba’al teshuva orthodox for about 15 years now. My boyfriend-soon-to-be-fiancé and I are Jewish but non-denominational with a traditional twist. We like practicing Judaism the way we want.
My dad is a very “obligation & stricture” type of religious and seems constantly disappointed by our Jewish choices, like what we do just isn’t enough and never will be.
I regularly feel guilty and anxious about my dad’s perception of us and feel like I’m a disappointment to him despite my life’s accomplishments, including finding a good Jewish husband.
Some people are able to avoid feeling guilty and be their own person. I have such a guilty conscience and feel stereotypical “Jewish guilt” very strongly to the point that it borders on extreme.
Does anyone have any advice about how to get over this?