Dealbreaker… How do you raise Jewish kids without ever mentioning the religion and never integrating them to religious centers in an almost non existent Jewish community?

Hi everyone, I’m going through a dilemma with my partner and I’d really like to hear some outside perspectives because I honestly don’t know what to do. I (23F) am Jewish. I didn’t grow up being very religious, but in recent years I’ve felt a stronger connection to my faith and culture, and I want to integrate more into the community. My partner (20M) is not Jewish. His family is Catholic on his mother’s side and Evangelical on his father’s, but he personally identifies as atheist. Still, since we’ve been together, he’s shown genuine interest in learning about Judaism and understanding my beliefs. The conflict started when we talked about raising future children. I told him that it’s important to me for our kids to have some connection to the Jewish community, learn Hebrew, and understand their roots — for example, I’d like them to participate in activities at the Chabad House, where they could make Jewish friends and grow up with that sense of identity. He, on the other hand, says he doesn’t want our kids to be raised under any religion because he has trauma from growing up in a heavily Christian environment with religious pressure. He wants them to decide for themselves when they’re older. I understand where he’s coming from and I respect his experiences, but it hurts to think my children might not have any connection to something that means so much to me. Especially since we live in a mostly Christian country where it’s rare to see other Jewish people, and maintaining cultural and spiritual identity can be really hard. I’m also conflicted because he says he’d like our kids to celebrate both Jewish and Christian holidays — but to me, that feels like a very strange situation. He wants to celebrate Jewish holidays, yet doesn’t want things like a bat mitzvah, Hebrew school, kosher meals, or even to attend synagogue. I find it confusing to celebrate Jewish holidays without community, understanding, or genuine connection to what we’re celebrating. For example, Chanukah is something I’d love my future kids to celebrate in community, especially since I don’t have a family myself — I’m estranged from my mom and sisters. It would mean a lot to have that sense of belonging and to share that joy with others who understand its meaning. I also feel really uncomfortable since he mention in middle of the discussion how his parents don’t want Jewish grandchildren. Yeah… I don’t want this to turn into a power struggle or a dealbreaker in our relationship, but this is such an important topic for me and I don’t know how to find a middle ground without feeling like I’m giving up a part of myself.

Has anyone gone through something similar? How do you handle these differences without resentment or forcing beliefs? How can you raise Jewish kids without any religion?