Tomorrow I’m going to celebrate Rosh Hashanah with my mother, which is a stressful situation within itself (as she’s hosting it at her boyfriends house who she’s been with for a month but they’re “inseparable now”), but my main anguish is in facing my younger sister for the first time since Passover. At Passover she got very drunk and too close to starting a physical “bar”-type fight with my 14 year old son.
We have had many discussions over this as a family and set boundaries that in order to see her, no alcohol is allowed to be served, yet everytime I think of what she did, I’m so angry. My son laughingly called her out on her constant cursing by saying “language” and this led to her in his face calling him a p*say and saying his generation was a bunch of snowflakes. He tried to deflect as we grabbed up our things and left.
I can understand why she did what she did, know her history and we’ve talked a lot about why she isn’t happy in her life and feels the need to turn to alcohol, so from that angle I can understand it. But as a parent I can’t forgive her- we had just put our second cat within 6 weeks down the day before, and literally only came down in the hopes family would boost our morale. My son had just lost his cat and now he’s got a family member yelling in his face?
I don’t want to carry this anger with me into the new year, but I honestly don’t know what to do.