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Non-Jew here. I was asked to light a candle at a Bat Mitzvah. What do I do?

Thank you in advance for your help! Some details are kept vague for privacy.

I’m an extra-curricular sports coach, and for the last 5 or so years, I’ve become close to a family who had all of their children go through my program. The youngest few are still regular participants. One of the girls is having her Bar Mitzvah coming up and the family invited me to attend.

When I confirmed my RSVP, their mother told me the daughter wants me to light a candle and say a few words as a “prominent and respected influence” in her life . I was obviously very honored that the daughter thought so highly of me and said yes. I’m an atheist myself so I actually have no idea what the protocols are, or what is expected of me.

This girl, and her family obviously mean a lot to me and I want to make sure I don’t screw anything up. Any advice?

PS: Is there any specific gifting protocol I should know about when getting a gift for her?

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