In a paper I’m working on, I say something about how, in early Jewish thought (and perhaps even still?), atoning for one’s sins against other people was more about your efforts toward appeasement than it was about the other person’s accepting that appeasement or forgiving you.
But I’m trying to find some good primary sources for this idea and I’m coming up short. All I have so far is the Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chayim 606:1:
Transgressions between people are not subject to atonement on Yom Kippur unless the offender appeases the offended party. . . . If one cannot effect appeasement at first, one must return a second and a third time, taking along three people each time. If the offended party will not be appeased after three visits, one may desist.
But surely there are more primary sources that express this idea (if indeed it is an accurate one).
Can anyone think of such sources, e.g. anywhere in the Talmud, in Maimonides, etc.?
The term mechilah (מחילה) seems to be related, too, but so far I haven’t struck gold…