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Moving To Conservative Judaism Questions

I am ‘zera israel’ and I’ve reconnected to Judaism in my late 20’s. When I was born, I had a bris milah got my hebrew name, and grew up in reform judaism, (USA), until I was 11. At the time, we moved, my older brother had already had his bar mitzvah and it wasn’t such a big deal that I didn’t. Not my parents fault either, I was frankly more interested in video games. Never went to a Church service in my life, we did Christmas with my mom’s extended family on alternate years, but overall minimal ‘goyishness’.

Like many ‘interfaith’ families my mom was involved with synagogue heavily. Let’s be honest, she knew more about Judaism from studying under a Rabbi, although she didn’t become Jewish, than my dad. She helped to set-up for holidays, prepare meals, and even was in the annual matzo ball soup competition, but got second place even though hers was from scratch and the winner used Progresso. I think that moment might’ve had something to do with why we stopped going when I was entering my teen years too.

My dad is your typical secular Jew. Supports Israel, proud of being Jewish, but only sets foot in a synagogue when our increasingly shrinking Jewish family passes away. Bless their memory.

I know very well to many I’m not Jewish. I am of Jewish descent, and it is part of my identity. To complicate matters further, I’m marrying a non-Jewish woman, funnily enough of other Levantine descent, who I love dearly. A URJ rabbi has thankfully agreed to marry us. I’m not pushing Judaism onto her, but she has been coming to my new reform synagogue. There is an understanding that my children would be raised Jewish. Unlike my father, and the fathers of many zera israel, I want to play a more active role, and maintain something closer to tradition.

And, that is where we get into my title. First, the Orthodox route does not interest me. I respect you all dearly. I love the analogy I read once of Judaism being baseball, and the Orthodox and Haredim are our NY Yankees, (or Red Sox, or pick your team), and people like me and my father are at best in the minor leagues.

On the flip side of the spectrum, as I’ve come to reform Judaism, I’m not sure today that the focus on social justice and being progressive, over talking about God and Torah are necessarily what I want the future of Judaism for my future family to be. I love the reform movement. I wouldn’t be who I am, Jewish or not, without it. However, I think the conservative movement is more closely aligned with my values. I’m not saying I will certainly leave URJ, or permanently, but I would like flexibility.

TL;DR here are my questions

1.) As zera israel who was raised in URJ, would I need to go through giyur to have the flexibility to join a conservative shul?

2.) If their mother didn’t join by her own accord, am I correct I would need to have a rabbi perform giyur while they are infants to join and have them raised in conservative shul?

Thank you for reading my story.

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