So i’m ashkenazi, both my parents are ashkenazi. They’re both from eastern europe except for my mom, her dad is turkish jewish. My dad is polish but he looks pretty non european. So i have inherited his “genetics” i guess, i don’t look what people think ashkenazi jews look like. And i always seem to get those comments from my fellow ashkis. How do i handle those comments? It’s not mean comments, it’s just really annoying.
For example, i went to shul one day with my dad, this was a new shul. A person there literally asked me if it was hard for me to adopt ashkenazi customs (assuming i was married for some reason). I don’t think it was offensive or anything just a weird comment/question. Someone was shocked i could speak jiddisch fluently when that’s what we’ve been speaking in my family since forever and said it’s funny i can speak jiddisch when they, an “actual” ashkenazi (as they said) couldn’t even speak the language.