If my understanding of lashon hara is correct, being that you cannot speak ill of someone even if it’s true unless you are directly protecting the listener from harm, is there any point in which an abuse survivor can tell their story?
If I were to speak about an abuse experienced, and name the person who did such things, would that be lashon hara? Does it matter if the abuser knows of my complaints already? And, does it matter if there is no chance that the abuser would be able to abuse the person I’m speaking to?
For a more specific example, there is a person who abused me in childhood. They are still alive and would certainly have reputational harm from their actions exposed. Meaning, anyone who heard my story would view this person very negatively if they ever met. This person has never apologized or sought forgiveness, though they freely admit my complaint is accurate. Is it my duty to not discuss what happened?