Alternate ways to spend the high holidays?

I’m Reform, I’m a semi-regular at my synagogue. But I hate the high holidays, they stress me out. The services are long and just don’t speak to me. My favorite melodies don’t happen. The once-a-year people show up, all dressed up, and it’s suddenly not my house anymore for me and my friends. I need to find something to do with myself on the high holidays. Don’t have family interested in celebrating or marking it much. I just get kind of lost. Any ideas?