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A lady approached my mom at a shul fundraiser and started talking about setting her son up with me (30F). I was right there.

This made me uncomfortable in a couple of ways.

1) it was very transactional, like two moms going, “hey, we need to pool our resources in order to get grandkids.”

2) She was addressing my mom, not me. If she had said something like “I think my son would love to meet you. Do you have a card?” I would have considered it. I guess Israelis aren’t strong on subtlety, but maybe I’m stereotyping….

3) I’m not very impressed by an absentee son who doesn’t go to shul, leaving his parents to prospect for him. If he doesn’t like shul, we don’t have any common grounds. Maybe I’m being romantic, but try getting to know me and then an angle like “you like activity x. so does my son. Can I put him in touch with you?”

4) She did not make a strong pitch for her son. Upon finding out that I’m a musician, she said her son tried to take piano lessons but he has ADHD and never practiced.

5) to make things worse, my mom was pitching me pretty hard, including saying things that are so exaggerated they’re not true. But that’s on me to deal with.

I guess I need to learn to stand up for myself better to both moms.

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